Surgery – Life As I Know It

December 2023 Update

It’s December – a month I love because of all the holiday decorations, music, and it feels like most people are in a cheerful mood.

I’ve been home from rehab a bit over a week. My pain is not too bad, minimal due to the pain meds; my right hip is still cranky and giving me a hard time. I walk with the cane around 75% of the time.

I had 2 medical appointments last week.

The neurosurgeon took my stitches out, said I’m healing really well. I need to wear the brace for another 3 weeks.

The oncologist said I can start my new treatment so I started those meds on Friday, December 1. It is an oral chemotherapy (Xeloda). I take 3 capsules in the morning and 3 in the evening after meals. So far no notable side effects, but frankly it’s probably too early to tell.

It’s been hard to arrange follow up physical therapy. I can’t drive so need someone to come to the house. My first session will be next Friday.

Maddy had her annual holiday dance recital (photo is courtesy of the dance studio’s social media). It was great to get out and see her dance. It was a stressful evening though for me and uncomfortable to sit for so long. My recovery on Saturday was rough. I’m glad I went though – she and her friends are amazing dancers and I love to watch her do what she loves.

Maddy is in the back left, although challenging to find. This is the entire dance company and students taking recreational dance classes.

I transitioned back to work last Monday. I’m working a few hours and then taking a break. It’s a desk/computer job so I can work from anywhere in the house that is most comfortable. I enjoy work because it gives me something else to think about.

I’m a “let’s get those holiday decorations up the day after Thanksgiving” kind of gal. Glen is a hard-core “no holiday decorations until 12/1.” So, given that I can’t do much, he put some decorations up yesterday. One of the best parts is our favorite coffee mugs come out.

This month I’ll continue to work and recover. Glen has a few work trips coming up so I’ll rely on Maddy and my lovely support network for any groceries and things I might need (it’s tough not to be independent). Holiday shopping online this year (bleh) will happen. I’ll try to catch up with a few MBC friends and head back to the oncologist and surgeon in a few weeks.

Get out there and support your local stores and shops (counter-act all my Amazon buying) and enjoy the holidays, whichever you celebrate.

Onward!

No place like home

There’s no place like home for the holidays 🎶.

I am very happy that I will be going home tomorrow (Wednesday 11/22) and can spend the Thanksgiving holiday with Glen, Evelyn and Maddy.

The other thing I am happy about is this morning (Tuesday) they cleared me to be “independent” which means I can get up and move about the room, use the restroom on my on and so on. No more calling the nurses for everything.

I’ll have spent a week in rehab when all is said and done. Was it a good choice to come here? Probably. The way the assessments run, the day of the week I arrived, and other factors meant that I probably was here a few more days than I needed to be but it’s fine.

I will continue to walk with the support of a cane. I have to wear a “CTO” brace. It’s a cervical brace that stabilizes my neck and connects all the way down to a belt. Not gonna lie, not very comfortable. I can take it off if I am lying down or inclined less than 45 degrees. I am not sure how long I have to wear the brace, likely up to 6 weeks post-surgery.

I don’t have much pain, partially because I am still on narcotics (oxycodone). There is minor discomfort in my upper back between my shoulder blades where they did the surgery.

The fabulous news though is that all the previous pain I had is gone so the surgery did indeed relieve the pressure on my spinal cord. I no longer have any numbness in my torso or legs.

So, hopefully this surgery and the one last month on my lower back have taken care of any pesky tumors. I just need to get my strength back up.

Next week I will meet with my oncologist and pending clearance from the surgeon and how my bloodwork looks, I may start my next line of treatment. The surgeon and oncologist will consult to determine if I’m strong enough to start the meds. I had major surgery and they want to make sure I’m strong enough to handle a new drug. The medication is an oral chemo called Xeloda (“Za-low-da”) (Capecitabine).

Overall, I’m looking forward to going home, a bit anxious about the next line of treatment, and will need to figure out a plan to return to work. My company has been absolutely fabulous. I basically called my boss the day I needed to go to the ER and told her the situation, she said “we’ve got you covered, go take care of yourself”.

It will be the four of us for the holiday. Making some food, watching some football, maybe working on a puzzle. I’ll be pushing for getting some Christmas decorations out, not sure how successful I’ll be.

I hope you all have a lovely, long weekend whatever you decide to do.

Post-Surgery Update – December 13, 2022

Thanks for all your well wishes. I had my hip/pelvis stabilization surgical procedure yesterday. Everything went fine. It was an out-patient procedure and we were back home around 6pm. My oxygen levels were quite low so I had to hang around for the afternoon until those got back up to acceptable levels. I am mobile and could walk immediately afterwards.

Glen is in Chicago for work so Nancy flew out and it taking wonderfully good care of me.

I have 2 incisions. They injected some cement and put in 2 screws in a cross-cross pattern that are about the length of a pen 😳. I don’t have much pain but that is probably thanks to the OxyContin.

I will have a post-op appointment in January. The second step in all this is some radiation on my pelvis to knock down any cancer. That will also be after the new year.

I very much appreciate you all – I feel the love with all your texts and messages. Thank you.

Plan A and Plan B, and C, and… – November 30, 2022

If you know me well, you know that I’ve always got a plan and a backup, and a few more backups beyond that. I gotta say, my current life situation was no where in my planning or remotely on my radar.

This being said, we’re not fortune tellers, so we have to give ourselves a little grace if life doesn’t go as we plan, hope, or desire.

Short update: Had my monthly visit to the cancer center. Pretty routine – awesome blood draws by the lab techs, lovely chats with the Nurse Practitioner and front receptionist, and once the IV was in my infusion was smooth. The second stick for the infusion is always tricky. My one good vein is used for the labs and then they pull in the rock star nursing staff to get a vein the second time.

Anyway, this was a routine check to make sure nothing weird is going on and everything is A-ok.

Perk of a mask is that it keeps my face warm as I exit the cancer center tonight in the cold.

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Longer update: You will recall that with Metastatic Breast Cancer (MBC) there is no cure; only treatments. Once you run through all the treatment lines you run out of options and the cancer wins. So, the goal is to stay on any treatment as long as possible.

There is general guidance for treatments that are based on the subtype of MBC you have. The oncologist and patient talk about the wiggle room in that guidance and make a personalized plan.

Right now it appears that my current treatment line is working (my scans in October were stable). However, it’s always good to be looking forward so we can sort through options and come up with a good plan.

To that end, I got a call earlier today from the Clinical Research Coordinator reaching out with information about a potential clinical research trial that is an option when my current treatment line fails. She gave me paperwork today to read through so I can learn more.

(Fun fact for those of you familiar with the IRB process. The pre-screening informed consent form is 15 pages long. The informed consent for the trial is 30 pages long. A tad bit more detail and information than the ones we fill out for education research!)

I’m somewhat familiar with the particular clinical trial and am eager to learn more. It’s important to note that clinical research trials are not a last resort! There are many that provide standard of care while also investigating new treatments.

I love to have information – and yet – I’m not gonna lie, it was a bit of a gut punch to hear her say ‘when the current treatment fails’. No one wants to think about that, but we have to. Well, I have to. I cannot bury my head in the sand and pretend like the current meds will work forever. I firmly believe knowledge is power and I’d rather be in the power seat with cancer.

One more note – my hip has only gotten crankier. I am hoping to have a procedure done next week (December 5), it’s not confirmed (believe it or not). The not-knowing is frustrating and challenging. I’ll share more once I actually have information.

My Cranky Hip – November 12, 2022

I mentioned briefly that my hip has been bothering me, so much so that I purchased a cane to help me walk.

Woman holding up a black cane. — This is my “fancy” cane. Lovely fleur-de-lis in white on black. It’s collapsible and comes with a bag so I can fold it up and carry it in my handbag.

I can’t walk unassisted, basically. I don’t want to continue to live like this because my quality of life (QOL) is not great.

So, I went to see an orthopedic oncologist in Denver.

I learned that the cancer has compromised my pelvis right exactly where my femur touches it. So, it’s painful whenever there is pressure or force exerted on it.

Dr. Lerman is in Denver and developed a novel approach to helping stabilize the pelvis of people with cancer. Rather than do a full hip replacement, he and Dr. Brown developed a surgical approach that will relieve my pain, take only a couple of hours of surgery, and have minimal recovery time.

It looks like I could have the procedure done after the Thanksgiving holiday. I don’t have any more details at this point, other than to share a short video of Dr. Lerman talking about what they do for the surgery.

I’m very glad that this looks to be an option. At the same time, I’m reminded that while my mind wants to move forward with life and do all the things….my body is riddled with cancer that is dictating everything.

I’m grateful for the access to care that I have. It’s also a struggle mentally and physically.

Thank you all for your support and checking in on me. I post about cancer stuff on this instagram account: @nottodaymbc