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Busy September capped by radiation ☢️

October 11, 2025

September was a busy month for me in managing cancer.

Back in June I had a brain MRI, which includes the very top of your spine (cervical). At that time, it looked like there might be an active tumor in part of my C1 vertebrae. I also had a full body PET scan that showed “stable” cancer at the time (mainly my spine has been problematic).

The stable PET scan means that my treatment (Enhertu) is largely working. However, the tumor on my C1 made me nervous. Your C1 is directly at the back of your head at the height of your nose. If anything goes wrong there it can be complicated and in the words of my oncologist “catastrophic” 😳

After discussing with my oncologist in August, we decided to radiate it. It’s not uncommon with metastatic breast cancer (MBC) to consider radiating smaller tumors if everything else is stable or no evidence of disease (NED).

So, I decided to pack this in to September which was already busy.

After another MRI of my cervical spine I met with a radiation oncologist. He wanted to do Stereotactic external Beam Radiation Therapy (SBRT) – a concentrated radiation that would have been 2 sessions.

My insurance company disagreed with my radiation oncologist and wouldn’t cover it.

I could appeal it but that can take weeks and I didn’t want to give the tumor more time to get comfy and grow. So instead, I had to go for 10 sessions over two weeks.

You have to lay perfectly still for radiation so that the beam hits the intended target. At my planning session appointment they created a mask. A mesh of warm plastic was placed over my face and head and molded to my exact shape. The photo of the mask shows me with a big smile – not that I’m super happy to be doing this, I just naturally smile for photos.

A spanking new mold of my face and head.

Then I got out of town. Drove Maddy to Cal Poly and then back home. The next day I jumped on a plane to Providence for work. Glen flew out at the end of the week and we spent the weekend (our first as official “empty nesters”) with my cousin playing tourist.

Beautiful fall weather made a boat tour of light houses on Naragassent Bay just delightful!

We got home late on a Sunday and Monday morning at 9am I had my first radiation treatment.

The photo shows me right after they finished a treatment. The mask mostly feels like a heavy blanket with a lot of holes draped over your head.

The mask is literally snapped to the table. You can’t move your head at all. You can kind of see through the holes and of course you can breathe. The round equipment above my head rotated all the way around the table that I’m lying on.

I had 10 treatments (M-F) over two weeks. Within those 2 weeks I also had my Enhertu infusion and got my flu and COVID boosters.

As soon as I finished radiation I headed back to the east coast, Washington DC this time to advocate on the Hill for funding for cancer research.

It’s been a lot, however, I refuse to let cancer dictate my life. Most of those days I was in bed before 9pm. I’m grateful that my side effects are minimal and I can still do “all the things”.

The side effects of radiation to your head are not pleasant. This week I developed a wicked sore throat to the point that I couldn’t swallow. Food doesn’t taste like anything. My fatigue has been ridiculous.

October is a little more quiet but more travel for work and fun.

I hope you all are living your best life and doing the things that make you happy and matter to you, whatever that might be.

Onward!

Our last family dinner before Maddy left for college.

Think Before You Pink – Support Research 🔬

October 1, 2025

When we moved to Colorado 16 years ago and I went to get my car license plates updated, I was asked if I wanted a “specialty plate”. There was one for breast cancer and I had been diagnosed only 6 months earlier.

“What does the extra $60 for the breast cancer specialty plate go toward?”

Clerk: “Um, I don’t know I think it’s just so you can raise awareness.”

“No thanks” – hard pass! They were collecting money that in no way went towards breast cancer at all.

Today is the start of Breast Cancer Awareness Month (BCAM) and you will see pink everywhere. I think it’s very important for people to be aware of cancer. However, at this point I’m pretty sure everyone in the U.S. is aware of breast cancer – how can you not be when you are confronted with pink at every turn!

Any business – or person – can “support” BCAM and do whatever they want with any money they might raise or collect.

Before you “round up” your groceries for BCAM or donate to a fundraiser, find out where that money is going.

If you are inclined to financially support BCAM, consider focusing on organizations that support scientific research of breast cancer. Scientific research is how we get treatments and how we understand how exactly breast cancer behaves. (Spoiler alert: we still don’t know how breast cancer behaves.)

Charity Navigator is a great resource to see how organizations use their funds (administrative costs vs. programming).

My favorite organizations focus on research mainly for stage 4 breast cancer (Metastatic Breast Cancer, MBC), they are listed below. Did you know?

Stage 4 (metastatic breast cancer MBC) is the ONLY breast cancer that kills.
30% of people “cured” from early stage breast cancer will eventually have a recurrence as Stage 4.
MBC is a terminal diagnosis.
If we cure stage 4, we cure everyone. Full stop.

If you’d at least share some of this information with one other person that would make me happy beyond belief.

We need more breast cancer research and especially stage 4. My life and the lives of my MBC friends depends on it.

METAvivor – donate on my page

Breast Cancer Research Foundation

Sikora Research Lab (donate or learn about a group I co-founded)

Lobular Breast Cancer Alliance

May update 🌷

May 12, 2025

Hi everyone. I write this at the end of a long – but good – day. My legs are up in my recliner and the cat is curled up. I guess he had a long day too.

Today was “treatment day.” That means a lab draw, office visit and then infusion of medications.

I had prepared for today and the real possibility of having to change my treatment. As I always say – I want to stay on each line as long as possible because there are a finite number of options.

Short version – I’m staying on my current treatment, Enhertu. I have a very good quality of life with it. It seems to be working, mostly, we think, maybe.

I get this drug every three weeks so I’m estimating that this means I’ll probably stay on Enhertu through a good portion of the summer.

If you are trying to kill time keep reading. Otherwise get outside and grab some sunshine and fresh air! ☀️

Longer version – I’ve been getting PET scans every 3 months for a little over a year. Previous to that I was getting a CT scan with contrast + nuclear bone scan. Recall I had terrible progression and they had to rebuild my upper thoracic spine in November 2023. The CT + bone scans Did. Not. Show. The. Tumors pressing on my spine!

How is this possible? Imaging is a very imperfect science and a lot of it is a matter of interpretation. And why would I get that particular combination of scans? Money. It’s the cheapest option and that is what insurance will pay for, unless something goes terribly wrong.

Queue fall of 2023. We clearly needed better imaging. The insurance company approved a PET-CT scan. PET scans provide essentially the same info as the CT + bone, but honestly they are better. Oncologists prefer them, insurance companies don’t. The PET-CT scan in December 2024 showed more uptake of the tracer in my thoracic spine. Diseased cells take up more of the tracer. These hot spots – or spots of increased uptake could mean the cancer is active and growing (progressing).

I had another PET-CT in March 2025 and it showed even a little more increased uptake in those areas – which made it seem like I was having progression, especially because my (very reliable) blood work tumor markers were steadily rising.

Now, I’ve been at this for a while – almost 6 years actually. I understand what is going on and I know what to ask for. I know that imaging doesn’t really work well for my cancer, unless it’s an MRI. I requested we do an MRI of my thoracic spine to see exactly what was going on. An MRI produces a very detailed image of every part of the internal structure of what is being scanned. My oncologist agreed and I had an MRI last week (on Sunday afternoon no less).

The results of the MRI were – unremarkable! (Love that word!) No tumors growing in my spine. Nothing of note in my thoracic spine. My lumbar spine has some bulging (L1, L2) and severe compression deformities (L3, L4) – which we already knew.

[Side bar – I have lobular breast cancer which typically doesn’t show up well on imaging because it doesn’t clump or form in a lump usually. Also, when it metastasizes it goes to unusual places like the stomach, colon, bowel, bladder and peritoneum and forms in thin sheets or strings, neither of which show up on imaging.]

Image from the Lobular Breast Cancer Alliance showing where mILC can metastasize.

Fast forward to today. My oncologist is totally comfortable with my staying on Enhertu given that the MRI didn’t show anything of concern. My CA 27-29 tumor marker is steadily rising. Historically my tumor marker has been reliable in indicating progression (rising numbers).

Tumor markers give an indication of how active the cancer is. A number below 39 means no active cancer. I’ve never had my tumor marker go below 42 the entire time I’ve had metastatic breast cancer.

My oncologist considers three things when recommending changing medication:

Imaging results
How the patient feels
Tumor markers numbers

Clearly imaging does not do a great job at indicating progression and the MRI didn’t indicate anything alarming. I feel great (working FT, walking an hour a day, just signed up for Pilates 2x a week). My tumor markers suck.

So, stay the course it is. Is this the right decision? 🤷‍♀️ We think so.

Before I had metastatic cancer, I didn’t appreciate how complicated making decisions was. I’ve learned that science has miles to go improving imaging so that it is more reliable. New in the past few years is the use of measuring circulating tumor cells in the blood, so that may eventually be a tool in the future for oncologists to figure out what is going on and base decisions on.

I appreciate my relationship with my oncologist. Everything is a joint decision. He listens to me (said yes to my suggestion of the MRI). He keeps current on the science and research. We are looking into a possible clinical trial for when it is time to switch medications. I’m grateful that I have access to such good medical care (and currently have very good insurance that allows me such access).

So, my health world right now is good (as are things with the girls). A lot of other parts of life are challenging and stressful. I’ll continue to take things one day at a time and live life to the fullest. I hope you do too. It passes quickly and this is our only chance to seize the day!

Onward!

Today I had a window seat for my infusion. The foothill mountains are green and you can still see snow on the Continental Divide. How wonderful that I have this view.

How Long to Ride this Treatment Train? 🚂

April 6, 2025

Hi friends and family – I hope spring has sprung in your area and you’ve been able to enjoy some time outside!

I write to share the latest status of my life with MBC and treatment. On March 31 I had treatment #20 of Enhertu! Yippee! Enhertu is an anti-body drug conjugate (ADC) given intravenously every three weeks. I do not have a port for it. On days I receive treatment I’m at the cancer center anywhere from 3-5 hours.

My oncologist considers three things when determining if we stay on the current treatment or change.

How do I feel?
What does imaging show?
What are my tumor markers (blood work) showing?

Fortunately, I feel quite good. I am still working FT. I’m walking daily. I’m doing all the things I want to do. So, all good here.

Imaging. Earlier in March I had a PET scan to see if the cancer is active. The imaging report stated that there was increased activity in several areas of my spine. My scan in December also showed a small increase in activity. So, not the best result.

Tumor Markers. My tumor markers (CA 27-29) have been steadily rising, not great. Ideally we want the number to be under 40. As you can see from the chart here, they are above that and trending upward.

So, what to do? 2 out of the 3 indicators are pointing to progression. My oncologist gave me the option to change medication now or stay on Enhertu. He said it is the “devil you know vs. the devil you don’t know.” After some discussion we agreed that if my tumor marker got into the 350-range we’d change meds.

Keep in mind that when we had that conversation I didn’t have my most recent tumor marker number. Clearly, it has jumped a lot in the past 3 weeks.

So, what next?

As long as I’m still feeling fine I will have my next appointments and treatment on April 12. However, it remains to be seen if I’ll have Enhertu or the next medication we have lined up (also IV chemo).

As you know, there are limited treatment options so we aim to stay on them as long as possible. On the other hand, we don’t want to stay on a treatment that is not working. We want to find something new that will quiet the cancer.

I leave you with a few photos from some recent travels. More soon.

Onward!

Quick March Update ☘️

March 18, 2025

Wow, I realized it’s been a hot minute (actually 2 months) since I shared an update on my health. You can assume that no news is good news!

I’ve been busy life-ing. I’ve been focused on improving my movement. I haven’t used a cane since October. I’m up to walking an hour at a time up to 3mph. I have started some weight training at home, basically trying to get back into shape.

All this to say, I’m feeling fine. I still have continual pain medication and other meds to deal with side effects. Other than some fatigue I’ve been feeling pretty good.

I’m still getting IV chemo (Enhertu) every three weeks. I’ve been on this medication since February 1 of last year. I’ve been grateful to have tolerated it so well.

There are hints though that it might not be working so well any longer. My scans in December were “fuzzy” and I just had another PET scan this morning so I will learn soon if the cancer is quiet or progressing. My bloodwork tumor markers have been rising pretty steadily (bad) so that is a concern.

I next see my oncologist at the end of this month and we will determine then if I need to change meds or not. As you all know, it’s best to change the medication if it is not keeping the cancer quiet. There are a finite number of medications though so the goal is to stay on each one as long as possible.

Our family is headed out on a little holiday later this week to celebrate life. Life is short! Go do “all the things” – even if it doesn’t seem like the best timing.

Onward!

Welcome 2025 🍾

January 1, 2025

As New Year’s Day winds down I write to say hello to all my friends and family, near and far. 2024 was actually a pretty good year for me (unlike 2023) and I’m optimistic this year will be even better.

I had a PET scan in December and the results were “fuzzy.” Well, that is the first word my oncologist used. Let me explain.

He agreed that imaging was not very reliable for me. However, the results showed additional uptake of the contrast in a few areas where I have known cancer (mainly in my spine). On the one hand, other areas seemed quiet and unremarkable. (I want to get a t-shirt that says “I’m unremarkable” – if you know, you know.)

Dr. Andorsky said the most important thing is how I’m feeling. I feel great! Really, I am so grateful for my new hip and my fentanyl patch and other meds, and the fact that I can get up every day and work, exercise, read, paint – you name it. On the other hand, my tumor markers have been slowly rising. They tend to be accurate in terms of whether cancer is active or not.

The other thing to consider is that there are a finite number of treatments so you want to make them last as long as possible. I was prepared to argue to stay on the same treatment and I didn’t need to do that at all! He suggested we stay on Enhertu and revisit in 3 months.

In other news, the tingling in my left arm has gone away. I will attribute it to the blood clot I had under my left collarbone and that by this time it has dissolved and so has my arm tingling.

So, I stay the course which is the best possible outcome. I get an IV infusion of Enhertu every 3 weeks. The cancer center is only 5 miles from my house so I’m able to get there and back quickly. A typical appointment is 3-4 hours for labs, an office visit and then treatment.

The rest of life is going swimmingly. We had a lovely (short) visit with family in Wisconsin. Glen, Maddy and Evelyn have hit the slopes already. Evelyn has been popping home now and again. Maddy has a short break from dance so she is home a bit more as well.

Maddy and I head to Texas to see her grandparents, it will be a short visit – we are looking forward to it regardless. I’ve booked a trip to see my BFF in LA for February and our family is making plans for a few family vacations in 2025.

I hope you are able to approach 2025 with optimism, enthusiasm and peace. I hope to see many of you this year. You are always welcome here – we have plenty of room! Seriously, we’d love to show you around Colorado.

Onward!

Thankful 💖

We are in the throes of fall and the Thanksgiving holiday is less than a week away. For many people, this time of year causes more reflection. For me, it’s mostly gratitude.

I’m grateful that I am able to celebrate another holiday season with my family. I’m grateful that most days I can live my life like I don’t actually have a terminal disease. I’m grateful for friends and family that support me and I’m grateful for science and scientific researchers who are working to find more treatment options for me.

I’m grateful that my oncologist is top of the game and is always a step a head of me. I appreciate that because, as you can imagine, I’m the kind of patient that comes with questions about new drugs and clinical trials.

Speaking of which, I spent all of yesterday afternoon researching clinical trials. Clinical trials.gov is a database of every clinical trial happening in the U.S. As you can imagine there are tens of thousands. Fortunately they have a decent search feature.

Even better are two trial search sites that focus on breast cancer. The Storm Riders site allows you to search for any trial related to breast cancer (any stage). It’s a fantastic resource. If you know anyone with breast cancer I hope you will share it with them.

The other site is Metastatic Trial Talk. This one is focused on stage IV, metastatic disease. In spite of searching and reading through many, many trials, I did not find any that were particularly helpful for the next treatment line. That was a little disappointing.

Last month my oncologist shared a trial with me for my next line that basically compares two different types of IV chemo. While that is fine, I’m really hoping for something that doesn’t require me to go in to the cancer center every week for an IV infusion.

I’m still taking Enhertu and the side effects have stepped up their game lately. Actually, I don’t know if they are side effects or just bad luck with something else.

I have tingling in my left arm that comes and goes. I had a Brain MRI and MRI of my cervical spine. The brain MRI was clear (yay!) and the cervical spine showed that the openings in some of my vertebrae where nerves exit are a bit too small and pinching the nerves, potentially causing the tingling.

What is causing this in my cervical vertebrae? I met with my neurologist and they are convinced that it is not a result of cancer. My oncologist thinks the same thing. What did they say? “This kind of thing can happen when you are 50+.” I don’t buy it. I think there is something going on that is causing it, likely cancer.

I also have a blood clot under my left collar bone. That could be causing the tingling. I’m on blood thinners now to prevent any new clots from popping up.

To top things off I’ve been having episodes of vertigo. My PT did the Epley maneuver and that helped initially. However, the episodes continue.

So, where does this leave me? Good question.

I will have an infusion of Enhertu on December 4. I will have a PET scan the following week followed by a telehealth appointment with my oncologist. My CA 27-29 tumor markers have been rising, so that’s not great. At that appointment we will know if the cancer is quiet or progressing. If it’s quiet, we continue on with Enhertu. If it’s progressing, we change treatment.

In between my Enhertu infusion and scan I will need to travel for work. I don’t mind traveling for work but it’s certainly not fun. It’s harder for me now than before my diagnosis so I try to go only when I really have to.

That’s my cancerland part of life. In the rest of life, I’m still working FT. I’m almost finished with a painting project, I’ve started painting with watercolor, and Glen and I went to the theater to see A Christmas Carol. The girls are off in Vienna now, exploring and having some quality sister time.

I hope that all of you have a meaningful Thanksgiving holiday, whatever that looks like for you.

Onward!

All Systems “Go”🚦

September 19, 2024

Hello friends and family! Welcome to fall (almost). The nights are getting cooler here and I’ve seen photos from others that the aspens are starting to change color in the mountains.

I write with good news. My PET scan of earlier this week shows that I’m stable. This is fantastic; it means that the cancer is not growing or spreading. The caveat is that lobular breast cancer sometimes doesn’t show up well on imaging. However, my blood tumor marker number dropped as well! The CA 27-29 gives an idea of how active the cancer is. A number of 38 or lower means the cancer is inactive. In mid-August it was 109. On September 11 it was 93! That was very welcome news!

The combination of the tumor marker dropping and my scan not showing progression means I can stay on the same treatment. I’m currently getting Enhertu every 3 weeks. I’ve got medications to deal with the side effects, overall I’m tolerating it very well.

I also spoke with my orthopedic surgeon this week. My recovery is going very well and he wished me a good time on my upcoming trip. He did mention several times how bad of shape my hip was in. I’m feeling grateful that I no longer have pain and hopefully I will be able to walk unaided soon. I still have some swelling and it’s hard getting used to walking since I’ve been using a cane for 2 years.

Tomorrow Maddy and I leave for Belgium. We are attending the International Lobular Breast Cancer Symposium! I received a travel grant from the Lobular Breast Cancer Association for which I am very grateful.

The symposium is 3 days long and the first day is focused on patient advocates. Maddy will come with me that day. The other 2 days are more research focused. We are excited to go and learn where research is headed for lobular breast cancer. My oncologist was not familiar with this conference and asked me to brief him on what I know. I’m more than happy to do that!

Not gonna lie – we are happy to go to Belgium as well. We should have one day where we can sight see. We will be in the city of Leuven which is east of Brussels. Watch for photos in the next blog post.

Life is good, right now for me life is great. I’m going to take it all in while also making sure I rest and don’t overdo it. Maddy may need to help me with that.

Onward!

June 2024 update

June 17, 2024

Here we are in full swing of summer. Flowers are blooming, the sun is shining and I’m enjoying all of it.

I had infusion #7 of Enhertu last week. It was an uneventful appointment which is always good. I received a bunch of pre-medication (anti-nausea meds and steroids), a big old bag of fluids (for extra hydration) and Zometa (a bone strengthener). The Enhertu itself only takes about 30 minutes but with everything else it comes out to around 2.5 hours.

I typically feel quite good the day after an infusion. The fatigue starts to hit 3-4 days later. I try to take it easy those first few days because it’s easy to overdo it.

My activity is mostly waking outside now on the cul-de-sacs of our neighborhood. They provide good stability and I can lengthen or shorten my walk pretty easily. At least easier than if I was doing a big loop around our neighborhood. I’m walking long enough now that I can easily listen to some audiobooks which is nice. I’ve missed that. I’m currently listening to How to Solve Your Own Murder by Kristen Perrin.

Anyway, I’m doing fine overall.

I did meet with the orthopedic oncologist last week as well. He validated my pain pointing out on my CT scan that a part of my hip has cracked and broken off and there is the fracture extending through my acetabulum. My femur hits that area each time I put pressure on my leg.

My right hip is on the left of the image. You can see the femur head is not round like it should be. This is from hitting the actual hip – which it should not be doing. You can also see a triangle in the lower center of the left side. That is a part of the hip that has cracked off.

The very good news is we have a solution! In early September I will get a hip replacement. I am very much looking forward to this. The orthopedic surgeon is very confident this will solve the problem. I’m looking forward to walking without pain. My family is also looking forward to my being more mobile. My situation impacts them as well so we will all be happy once I have a shiny new hip.

Onward!

Knowledge is Power 🧐 💪

May 4, 2024

Hello everyone and happy May! I feel like I can’t pass on saying May the Fourth Be with You, even though I’m not big into Star Wars.

I do feel like this is a good news post. I have information from both a PET/CT scan of my entire body and an MRI scan of my lower back.

I have a fracture in my hip that was not caused by a fall or any kind of trauma. It just developed because my bones are weak. The fracture is right in the ball of the hip joint (the acetabulum) where the femur connects. Every time I stand up the femur pushes on the acetabulum where the fracture is, causing pain.

So, my cranky hip is not progression from cancer. Yay!

My tumor marker numbers look good. Last month was 94, last week it was 102. I’ll take it, it’s much lower than the 800 I had in January! 38 and lower means no active cancer. For now, I’d like lower but will be patient!

All smiles because the cancer is under control, for now!

Now the longer version. Stop reading here if you only wanted the basics.

My main oncologist is calling the orthopedic oncologist that did my hip stabilization procedure back in December 2022 to ask if there might be anything he can do. Still waiting on that.

I had my 5th infusion of Enhertu, which is an IV chemo. At this point my side effects are mild and manageable with a combination of my being kind to myself and medication. I don’t have major hair loss, just some shedding. I have some numbness in my fingers now and again (neuropathy). I get the hiccups a lot. Sometimes so loud and violently that they wake me up; sometimes Glen has to go sleep elsewhere because they just don’t stop. The biggest issue has been nausea and vomiting. I think I have that managed by medications, we shall see.

I am feeling very, very grateful as many people do not tolerate these drugs as well as I have.

Back to my hip. I’ll be mainly working with my physical therapist now to get me stronger and get some cardio going. He explained today that unless we can do something with the hip fracture, I probably need to accept that an assistive walking device, like my cane, is a part of my future.

I’ve got a home exercise plan for weight training and other exercises to improve my balance and all that fun stuff. I need to get cardio into the mix so I’ll start with our home treadmill. Ultimately, I’d like to get to the pool to do some walking and other exercises in a non-stress environment.

My goal is to be able to walk outside on the trails by July. I’ll need more strength and stamina and I’m really excited about working to reach this goal. I’ve really missed getting out of the house.

I’m still on a ton of pain medication, including the fentanyl patch. It helps tremendously and I don’t notice any impairment from it, yet I’ve avoided driving as much as possible. That makes life rather difficult but not impossible.

In non-cancer updates – Evelyn is finishing up her semester exams of her sophomore year at CU Boulder. She will live at home this summer because she got an internship (in mechanical engineering) at a company across the street from our neighborhood!

Maddy is wrapping up Junior year and some IB (International Baccalaureate) testing. She just had her last dance competition of this year, now auditions for next year and the spring recital. If you are local and want to join me at any of her recitals let me know.

Glen is busy with work and enjoying the warmer weather. He’s back to running in the foothills, especially on the weekend. He is currently outside working on the gardens. Glen and Maddy did some campus tours in the LA region earlier this spring.

I’m keeping myself busy with work and working on strengthening the local MBC network that I started. Overall I’m feeling better so it’s been a blessing and a curse that I want to do more and need to not overdo it, which I have a tendency to do.

I’m hoping to make a trip to Wisconsin in the early part of summer and of course would love to connect with many of you. I’ll share plans once they are made.

Be well my friends. Get out there and live every day as if it were your last.

Onward!